Single parents have in recent years become some of the most vilified members of our society fuelled by the press single parents are in some peoples eyes responsible for all the ills of the whole world!!!!!!
Myth most single parents did NOT decide to become a single parent as a career choice.
Myth most single parents dont sit around idle all day.
Myth most single parents do not go out and spend all of their benefit money on nights out.
In reality there is little research done to evidence the myth other than scaremongering when there is a story in the papers which "fits" the myth.
Have you noticed how Government ministers always draw up plans to withdraw benefits ie housing benefit, income support, jobseekers allowance etc, hmmmm judgemental and biased to say the least, I have yet to hear what they plan to do to a 2 parent family who own their own house but have a wayward teen/young adult?
Makes you think doesnt it.
Anti social behaviour is caused by a lot of different factors BUT it is NOT caused by single parents alone, of course it is ridiculous to suggest that non of the antisocial behavour comes from children of single parents but it is equally ridiculous to assume that non comes from a 2 paernt families child.
We meet single parents day in and day out who are wonderful parents, they are stuggling to cope primarily because this Government refuses to aknowledge the unique difficulties that single parents face when trying to secure employment, do they relaise that childcare for over 8`s is virtually non exsitant?
Where does a parent leave a child then once they reach 8 years, this Government would have you believe that is oh so simple, you rely on grandparents, friends etc, well that doesnt work for everyone, not everyone has parents and not everyone has a friend who doesnt work and who is willing to take a child for 13 weeks of the year while they are on school holidays, yes that sounds a lot doesnt it and for some single parents it has pushed them to breaking point, they dont know which way to turn, even those who have been in employment for a number of years are finding that they are having to cease working for lack of childcare once thier child reaches 8 years old!!!!!!
The pressure on parents as a whole has never been greater but on single parents it is becoming unbearable, something has to give.
There has been talk in recent months of schools opening for longer and possibly through the summer, hmmmm again would the children of single parents be forced to attend these after school and summer schools whilst the child of a 2 parent family doesnt have to?
No one seems willing to answer this question.
Single parents want help to make life better BUT not at the expense of never seeing their children, lets not forget that most single parents didnt actually want to be single parents and take their responsibilities towards their children very seriously, they put them 1st and MUST feel comfortable with any arrangements made for their childs care and wellbeing.
They dont want or expect specail treatment just fairness and for each case to be looked at individually as one size certainly does not fit all.
Interestingly this story appeared after I typed this page but I will include it now, it makes for interesting reading and backs up what we already know.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2178718/90-primary-pupils-sent-home-day-attacks-class-Shocking-figures-reveal-rising-school-violence.html
The biggest problem in my opinion is that a Governments have eroded parental rights, teachers rights and Police rights, basically we now have a system where the children in the UK rule us, this simply doesnt work for anyone, children thrive and actually like to have firm boundaries set, we need to get back to a system where the adults are in charge and not this topsy turvy way we have drifted into!!!!!
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